What is X and Y

Contribution from the leader of Greater China

Conflict with self (X)

Outlook

• critical


• negative; closed-minded


• see problems mainly: everything is "hard", "difficult" and "tough"

Behaviours

• avoidance


• denial/defensive/justifying/reasoning


• focus on "lack"

Outcome

• life is hard


• self-critical


• take things personally/ seriously


• unhappy

Harmonize with self (Y)

Outlook

• face issues squarely (because can face self)


• positive


• open minded


• see "solutions" - there is hope!

Behaviours

• less concerned with the words and comments of others


• sense of fulfillment, at ease, at peace

Outcome

• take things lightly


• lets go easily


• goes with the flow

Mechanics and Outcomes

Optimism is not equal to positiveness, but pessimistic is X
Y sees opportunities, X sees obstacles
Y is giving, focus on what we have, satisfied
X is taking, focus on what we lack, dissatisfied
Y sees solution; X sees problem
X and Y energy Not X and Y people
Its not one or the other; we all have both
We have a choice; its within our control
X wants to live up to expectations; Y embraces Self
X tries very hard; rather than being
X dwells on things; Y moves on

Its not one or the other; we all have both but We all have a Choice

How to switch?

--> Embrace yourself, love yourself

--> Count your blessings

--> Remember everything happens for a reason

--> Focus on others (Giving), not yourself (Taking), avoid self-pity

** Don't ask for Y outcome, it will come "packaged".

True Y is at Ease & at Peace